Failures are always part of our life. We are humans, after all. It may be hard to accept, though, especially if you’re a perfectionist. But life goes on and we have to keep moving forward.
Like Samuel Beckett said, “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
- First, just accept how you feel. Try to accept it, to let it in and to hurt for a while instead of trying to reject it all and to keep it away. Because when you let it in and accept it then it will go faster and in the long run be less painful to process what has happened. If you reject how you really feel then those emotions will pop up at unexpected times later on and can make you moody, pessimistic, angry or sad.
- Remember: you’re not a failure just because you had a setback. Just because you failed today or yesterday doesn’t mean that you’ll fail the next time. The truth is that this won’t last for the rest of your life if you keep moving forward, if you take action and you keep learning and it doesn’t label you as some kind of failure (except if you decide to create that label in your own head). Seeing what’s negative as a temporary thing instead of something permanent is an essential key to an optimistic attitude and to keep going forward in life.
- Be constructive and learn from this situation. See it more as valuable feedback and something you can use to improve rather than only a big blow and setback. The important thing is to start thinking about the situation from this perspective and to be constructive about things instead of getting stuck in denial or negativity and apathy.
- Find inspiration and support from your world. A conversation with someone close to you can be very helpful.
- Take action on that plan right away after you’ve drawn it up. Split your start of a plan up into small steps and then take action on just one of them. If you still have a hard time to get going then go for a very small step, just 1-5 minutes of action forward. The important thing is to get started and moving forward again so make that easy on yourself.
- Improve your self-esteem. A last thing that has helped me in general to handle setbacks is to improve my self-esteem. A good start would be to use much of what you find in this article. Like remembering that YOU are not a failure, that everyone have setbacks, to be constructive in the face of adversity and so on.